Thought I’d touch on this.
I’ve heard people say “Oh, there’s bullying in our school?” “I don’t think people are really being bullied”
If this is you, then you’re blind to your own fault.
Any time you gossip about someone, or say something mean about someone to their face or behind their back, you’re being a bully.
That’s what hurts people. Not just what’s said to their face, but what everyone is saying behind their back. The rumors that you spread. That secret that you tell your friend about someone messing around on new years, that’s bullying. That’s spreading somebody’s personal life and mocking/judging it. Is there physical bullying and face to face bullying? Yes, however minimal, there still is.
But I think the real problem is when you and your group of friends is ripping on what a girl did with her hair, what someone wore, someone gaining weight, losing weight, being weird, or being passionate about something ‘geeky’. These people are daring to step out, they’re doing something that they want to do, and you’re going to tell them they’re not cool and that it’s not acceptable? The problem with society is we continue to tell people to ‘be themselves:)’ but as soon as they are, you run to your friends and tear them down.
Every time you gossip or rip on someone, it’s coming from your own insecurity, and until everyone grows up and realizes this, there’s still going to be a problem with bullying.
Everybody is equal. No matter what your passions are, how much money your family has, what exclusive friend group you’re in, the sports you play, etc. Because when it comes down to it, you’re worth is in who you truly are on the inside, and if everything listed above was taken away and your personality was out on the table, what would be so cool about you then?
How you treat the ‘nobodies’ is how you really are. And next time you want to tear someone down or make fun of what they’re doing, ask yourself what’s really wrong with it, if it even concerns you, and if you’re doing any better.